Born For Your Generation…



Erica looked at him with disgust….he was, and always would be, a pig to her.
“I don’t want to have anything to do with you!” She said to him.
“Why are you acting all self righteous all of a sudden! Haven’t you made mistakes before in your freaking lifetime…” The slap that came across his face was way too hard and you could see the tears that stung his eyes. ‘Had she hit him too hard?’ She asked herself. He looked at her…like he would gladly give her the same thing, but instead he stormed out of their home.
Erica sat down on the floor and covered her face with both hands, her hair disheveled and her shoulders shaking from the mingled sorrow and tears flowing from her.

“Cut!” The director said. “Good job Chika….we’ll be back in ten.”. Chika got up from the floor and walked out of the scene to where the refreshment stand was. She grabbed a bottle of water and made small talk with some of the casts and workers.

“Na wa o Chika….that slap no be ordinary slap. It was like you truly wanted to kill me.”Nonso, her husband in the movie, joked.

Chika laughed, but deep down she was tired. The going up and down and shooting movies were getting to her so much that she had forgotten her vision and was being sucked in with the idea of getting plenty money and being famous. She thought she lived a good life…one where she had money, had a good family but still …something seemed to be missing and she didn’t feel she was ‘it’ yet.

“Okay everyone back to position!” The director yelled. Chika put away her thoughts for yet another time and went back to work…this thoughts however continued to linger in her mind


Purpose is the reason why something, or rather someone, was created.
For something to come into existence then there is a reason why the ‘creator’ created it and what its meant to achieve.
You were created for a reason. To achieve something.

I guess once in a while you have those thoughts, if you are fulfilling purpose or if you are actually doing what you are meant to do. The satisfaction and sense of fulfilment in the work you do at the moment may not be there yet…and the void you feel cannot be filled with the material possessions you are acquiring with gusto.

The question is….
Are you fulfilling purpose?
Are you doing what God made you for?
Are you nearer or farther away from fulfilling your purpose?

These are questions you should ask yourself. In Rev 4 vs 11b; it is by God’s will that you have been created.

I’m sure you might have heard all of this before about purpose and all that. But are you really living a life of purpose?

A birthday is here! And apart from the celebrations and rejoicing of seeing another year. Something personal you should ask yourself is if you are closer to achieving what God made you for or farther away.

The book, PURPOSE DRIVEN LIFE, we all might have heard about it. Some may have bought it and kept it somewhere in their library untouched, others who have read and forgotten it, and yet some who haven’t had the opportunity to get it.
This is a good way of refreshing our memories and refocusing on what’s important.

Going to the popular story of Genesis, of how man was created. God made Adam for a purpose which He revealed to Him and man went about it.

In Jer 1 vs 5 (NIV), “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.”

God made me for a reason. God made YOU for a reason. You just don’t exist to just be an onlooker of life. He made You for something in your generation. Take Moses and Aaron for example, they were both chosen and sent by God to deliver the Israelites from the Egyptians.

Now, what he has set you apart to do might not be a big thing that brings you to the lime light, it might be something little and quiet, but whatever the case you will have God applauding you for a job well done.

So how do you know what you are here for? The only person that can tell you why you are here and make you live a fulfilled life is God. Like the story above….Chika has acquired so much in possessions but felt something wasn’t right yet.

I had an awesome time at our Destiny Conference 2014, Oby Ezekwesili and Tunde Alabi , came as guest speakers and they mentioned some imperative things.

And I would share just little of what I learnt from both parties respectively:

“All the material things acquired in your life doesn’t mean you have been successful in life. What makes you successful is adding value to others…completing your Godly assignment.”

“We all have gifts and talents. We are all unique. Who you are and what you will become has already been written…go and find it out.”

I spoke extensively about us using our gifts and talents in Butterfly and Dreams sometime ago.

Let’s at the end of the day say like Jesus in John 17 vs 4 (NLT): I brought glory to you here on earth by completing the work you gave me to do.


…Yours Truly,


Hi……here I am …..once again. Hope you aren’t tired of me? Of my same ol same ol things.
I ask myself am I Yours?….. Yours for the taking?

Have I truly surrendered my all to You……my heart, soul, mind, body, love……….
I gave but yet a times its like I take it all back; Is that what love is? I know the answer…, it’s not. That’s not love….its just me putting a leg in and out….like playing hokey pokey with Your feelings…..and it shouldn’t be like that. I’m so sorry. Why? Why do I find myself falling short?…..

Give me a strong will and determined mind….I need it…..the ways of the world try to allure me….seduce me with their pleasures. I can’t fall….my desires always try to take centre stage and push You away from the spot light. It just goes to show me I need You more than ever before. Your three in one being my pillar. ‘Cos I want to be Yours truly at the end…..

I want it so badly….tears sting my eyes as I think on it. I’m tired of failing You……You are my only means of help. pls help me.


Yours …..


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Loving Yourself and Others…


John 15 vs 17 This is my command: Love each other.(NIV)

I look into the mirror and I tell myself ‘I love you Tope.” And I smile. Queer right? Well someone’s got to do it and rightly so me at this moment! Lol (okay I actually don’t do that but I love me and take care of me *smile*)

But I do have a friend that sends messages to himself and says how much he loves himself….I think that’s pretty cool. I would also like to do the same.

The bible says we should love ourselves.

Loving God – Loving ourselves – Loving others.

Loving God enables us to love ourselves and then be comfortable to give that love to others. We learn how to love from God.

But you could ask, “how can I love someone who doesn’t even love me back? Who doesn’t even appreciate my love..”
Well you’ve got to love anyway ’cause we are even told to love our enemies also. Its not easy….but His grace is sufficient…..

Loving without expecting anything or expecting to be loved in return frees you from hurts ’cause you are loving freely…. That’s an unconditional love.

I have friends that I care about and I know I love the person (brotherly/sisterly love) and wouldn’t mind helping out and I wondered like seriously, if I could love everyone this way it would be so cool.

Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean jumping from one relationship to another and dropping off a piece of your heart and having a broken part left. No way! What I mean is loving everyone the way God wants us to; freely without conditions.

If the person doesn’t love you back…. You couldn’t be bothered but keep on loving.
If the person keeps being a pain and making mistakes, you could just be patient as you would be with yourself(’cause you definitely wouldn’t shout at yourself or like someone to shove you you would also not do that to another)
And mind you doing all that loving without expecting it in return takes a lot of maturity in Christ.

Loving yourself entails you taking care of you (I really like to take care of me… I love myself by buying things for me clothes,shoes, body and facial scrubs :D. and eating right.
I like to sing and dance…just me having fun with myself….’Cause if you can’t have fun with you …means you always have to wait for someone to make you happy.

Being happy with you makes you energized to make others happy ) and spending time to do the things you love, taking yourself out and others. But with all this how much can we do this for others? (I ask myself the same thing too)

God wants us to love others as He loves us and by doing this, people would know we are truly His disciples; people of His kingdom. ‘Cause if we really can practice this love with others we would live at peace with each other.

1 John 3 vs 10 (NIV), ‘This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: Anyone who does not do what is right is not God’s child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister.’

Let’s all check out the characteristics of love in 1 Corinthians 13 and try to imbibe them. God help us all……

Prayer: Lord, help me to love you, myself and others as you want me to.



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Self Control…



Self–control: restraint exercised over one’s own impulses, emotions, or desires.

I read this somewhere(link provided below): The ancient Greeks prized self-control over all virtues. Of all the schools of Greek philosophy, the one that elevated self-control to the highest level of importance were the Stoics.

Stoic taught that if a man could become master of himself— if by sheer will-power he could gain control over his emotions and responses, then he would be perfectly free—no one, no circumstance could control him.
He would be unmoved by anything that happened to him.

There is a famous legend— about a young Greek man who embraced Stoic philosophy.
In order to prove his commitment to Stoicism— put a fox under his tunic, as this fox began to bite him, he did not move, he did not grimace.
The people around him had no idea that anything was wrong— they had no idea he had a fox under his tunic, until he dropped dead,because the fox had torn into his stomach and eaten his insides.

Probably a legend, but it does illustrate the Greek understanding of self-control,which was simply will-power.
Reaching inside yourself and grabbing some inner strength—and hanging on.  It was turning yourself into a stone.

Hmmm… Might sure sound dramatic and ridiculous;

However, am sure we all have different things we deal with and need to exercise self-control on.
Addictions, bad habits, pornography, Sex, money, drugs, uncontrollable tongue, anger ……

Control. Just say ‘NO’

It’s a spiritual BATTLE.

Have you ever found yourself making a decision to stop something but when the firm decision has been made, something else comes up and pulls down your defenses. Well, I certainly have. Just when I have made the decision to not let my weaknesses get the best of me…it’s like it just wants to taunt me more and the power to say no just isn’t there….

Prov 25 vs 28 MSG ‘ A person without self-control is like a house with its doors and windows knocked out.’

In the above verse it makes me understand that without the doors and windows, anything can walk into the house; stray dogs and cats, armed robbers have easy access, in short anything has free access to dwell there.

In the spiritual realm, it means free access to the work of the enemies.

Tim Keller gives a great definition of the fruit of self-control:
Self-control is the ability the Holy Spirit gives you to chose the important thing over the urgent thing. The urgent thing is gratifying your sinful nature. Worldly passions. Idolatry. The important thing is love God and love your neighbor.

I read somewhere (link provided below) that its not enough to have will power but one should also use scriptures to strengthen one’s self.
Just one of the things I try to control are my thoughts and I would literally shake my head as if that would ward off those thoughts, but then I would start praying and it does work.

You might say, “I have tried that before …… I have determined in my mind not to do it but I later failed.”

But God is saying, “YOU tried it on your own…. Receive my grace to maintain your self-control.”

Its not just saying ‘no’ with your mouth and mind alone but working along with His GRACE.

Titus 2 vs 11-14 AMP, ‘11 For the grace of God (His unmerited favor and blessing) has come forward (appeared) for the deliverance from sin and the eternal salvation for all mankind.
12  It has trained us to reject and renounce all ungodliness (irreligion) and worldly (passionate) desires, to live discreet (temperate, self-controlled), upright, devout (spiritually whole) lives in this present world,
13  Awaiting and looking for the [fulfillment, the realization of our] blessed hope, even the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior Christ Jesus (the Messiah, the Anointed One),
14  Who gave Himself on our behalf that He might redeem us (purchase our freedom) from all iniquity and purify for Himself a people [to be peculiarly His own, people who are] eager and enthusiastic about [living a life that is good and filled with] beneficial deeds.

Let’s all connect to the power of His grace to live better controlled lives.

Merriam -Webster dictionary


To Love GOD


1 Peter 1 vs 8a, ‘You love him even though you have never seen him….’

How do I express love to someone I can’t see but can obviously see me?
I don’t know how he feels or can’t see His expression. So how do I know how? How do I love God?

Taking a husband and wife for example, a wife loves her husband and wouldn’t want to cheat on him…may not even think of settling down with any other man when her husband meets all her needs and loves her; infidelity is out of the question. She would be devoted to her husband with her body.

Well I’m not married yet..but I show love to those around me by wanting to be there for them, helping them when they need something, spending time with them, saying the words ‘I love you’ , not wanting to make them sad ’cause it would hurt me, learning to say I’m sorry to those I hurt.
But obviously I’m not super human so don’t think its all perfect. Sometimes its not easy to say sorry, but this is done with a little nudge from within; the Holy Spirit’s doing. I need the Holy Spirit’s help to relate with others.

The above illustration is to learn something; I need the Holy Spirit’s help. Remember in my last post on ‘God’s love‘ that we need power to understand God’s love, we need the Spirit of God to love also.

Most especially love entails SACRIFICE. I asked God how do I love, how do I show I love you? And what came to mind was sacrifice; sacrificial love. Sacrificing my time, setting some things aside to just be with Him.

God says we should love Him with all our heart, soul and mind. That means absolute devotion to Him.

Another way He knows that we love Him like we say we do is when we keep His commandments.

And when we love God so many benefits follow. For example:
God says in Jer 29 vs 11, ‘ For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.’

Now connect the above passage with this:

1 Corinthians 2 vs 9-11, ‘9 That is what the Scriptures mean when they say,
“No eye has seen, no ear has heard,
and no mind has imagined
what God has prepared
for those who love him.” 10 But it was to us that God revealed these things by his Spirit. For his Spirit searches out everything and shows us God’s deep secrets. 11 No one can know a person’s thoughts except that person’s own spirit, and no one can know God’s thoughts except God’s own Spirit.’

Loving God, choosing to know Him more and building up intimacy with Him allows us to know all He has in store for us.
Loving God, choosing to have know Him more and building up intimacy with Him allows us to know all He has in store for us.

Don’t love God ’cause of all the good things He can give you…Love Him ’cause He loved you first regardless of your sinful state when others might have rejected you.


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